St Patrick's of Smithtown
(Taken from the 2002
St. Patrick's 50th Anniversary Journal)
The Pre-Cana Program began at St. Patricks in 1975 when Father Joseph
Canning sent Mike and Marge Cortegiano to a Diocesan Pre-Cana Traing
Program. In 1976, the Cortegianos launched the program with the
help of St. Patrick's new Pastor, Father John Mott. The
Cortegianos headed the program until 1986, when Gail and Carl Valentino
became the coordinators.
In recent years, the Pre-Cana program was revamped under the leadership
of four couples - Jim and Donna Nebgen, Dan and Ellen Bartley, Bob and
Bev Bieneman, and Helene and Owen Farley. The biggest change was
the incorporation of Foccus (Facilitating Open Couple Communication,
Understanding, and Study) - a survey in which both members of an engaged
couple answer questions on a variety of subjects. The surveys are
then entered into a computer. The results help give an inventory
of the relationship. The survey covers areas such as
communication, finances, friendships and spirituality. Couples are
able to see what areas of their relationship are strong and what areas
need work. The survey is completely confidential. Only the
couples theselves see the results.
Today's Pre-Cana consists of 15 married couples who work with the
engaged couples. The program runs three times per year (fall,
winter and spring) for six weeks, with 15 to 20 couples participating
each season. The first of the six-weekly meetings is an
introductory night. The couples meet at the church and hear from
one of the parish priests. During the next four weeks, the couples
meet in the home of the facilitating couple. They have discussions
and work their way through a workbook entitled, "Decisioin to
Love." The work book covers topics such as communication,
family of origin, personalities and pasts, sexuality, children,
sprituality, finances, family, and friends. Couples spend part of
the time working one-on-one, and part in group discussions. The
couples meet for a final time at Mass where they are called forward into
the sanctuary, have their rings blessed, receive a cross. The Mass
is followed by a party.
In the end, the couples hopefully have a better understanding of their
relationship to God and each other and are better prepared for a
lifelong journey together.
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St. Patrick R.C. Church
280 East Main Street
Smithtown, NY 11787
6:45am, 9:00am, 12:10pm
9:00am, 5:00pm, 8:00pm
Main Rectory Phone #:
Are you a card carrying member of our parish?
At St. Patrick’s we don’t have membership cards
because everyone is always welcome!
But if you attend or are
planning on attending Mass here, and are NOT registered with the
parish, please fill out a
and return it to the Rectory. Please help us
get to know you better so that you can best take advantage of
everything our parish has to offer.
Friday, March 1st
First Friday of the Month
We will have Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament following the 12:10 PM
Mass until 3:30 PM in the church. The Chaplet of Divine Mercy
will be recited at 3:00PM. Please join us as we adore our Lord Jesus.
Saturday, March 2nd
In the Church
Whether you pray the Rosary every day or have never
prayed it at all, we invite you to join us. Rosary beads and
prayers will be provided for everyone to follow along.
For more information, email:
or call Lana at 631-374-1116.
Married in March?
Please join us at the
Sunday, March 3rd
All couples are invited to renew their vows and
recieve a special blessing. We encourage
all to participate in this very special tribute.
Friday, March 1st
7 PM in Room 209.
Join with others making Rosaries and spreading devotion to Our Blessed
Mother. All ages welcome. For more information please call
Invites all to join them for their
Monday, March 4th
Recitation of the Rosary at 7:00 PM
Mass at 7:30 PM
After Mass, all will gather in Canning Hall for the meeting.
at 7:30 PM in the church.
The Sacred Heart Prayer group is a charismatic prayer group
that meets every Tuesday evening at 7:30 PM.We are looking for
new members, young and old……All would be welcomed.
We would especially like to reach out to anyone who might like
to join our music ministry. If you play the guitar or sing, we
would love for you to join us!
If you have any questions, call
Barbara Hall at (631) 366- 0252.
All are invited to attend!
Monday, January 23th
7:30pm Novena Mass.
If you interested in being a part of a vibrant group of women who
faithfully support the work of the church and help those in need,
consider becoming a “Catholic
free to stop by the next Catholic Daughter Meeting:
St. Patrick's Pro-Life Family invites you to join us for our monthly
meeting. Please come and unite with us as we witness to the
sanctity of Life.
Saturday, January 21st
after the 8 PM Mass.
Join us for a night of prayer in front of the Sacred
Sacrament. The first vigil (hour of prayer) will begin
immediately after the 8 PM Saturday night
Mass. Parishioners are encouraged to stay
after Mass for Exposition of the Blessed Sacrament and may
pray privately or with the Nocturnal Adoration group. The
first vigil will be from 9 PM to 10 PM. The vigils will continue
throught the night. The last one will be from 6 AM to 7 AM
followed by Benediction and the 7:30 AM Mass. All are invited
to participate. Come and spend sometime with our Lord Jesus.
All singles are invited to refreshments & conversation
Sunday, June 17thth
at 10:00 AM
(after the 9 AM Mass)
Youth Enrichment Center
For information, call 631-265-2668
9 a.m. & 10:30 a.m. Masses
All are invited to join with fellow parishioners for
coffee, tea, bagels and pastries in Canning Hall.
Pro-Life Family Hosts A
Adoration - Thanksgiving
Reparation - Petition
Tuesday, March 19th
7:30 to 8:30 PM
in the church
The first weekend of the month, we will have the offerig for the Hungry
and homeless. Please look for the Hungry & Homeless boxes at
the church exits and be generous in sharing God’ blessings.
Your Bottle Money
The 4th Weekend of the Month
Please recycle your bottle and cans and donate the money to the
worthy cause of helping mothers and their babies in need.
Look for the Pink Baby Bottle banks at the church exits.